What is Desire and how does it work?
Desire is experienced in different ways from person to person. To best understand how people experience desire, we need to discuss the difference between spontaneous desire, responsive desire, and context-dependent desire.
As we describe the difference in these three types of ways that people experience desire, you will likely identify which category you fall into rather fast. But, it is very important for you to know that all types of desire are normal and healthy. One is not better than the other. You and your partner may experience desire in different ways. But, this does not mean you’re destined to be unhappy.
This is the “common” narrative of sexual desire. It makes up for how 75% of men and 15% of women experience desire. This type of desire usually occurs in anticipation of pleasure. Or, it occurs in response to sexy stimuli (i.e. partner getting undressed; a stimulating thought)